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Even the most confident people have days when they feel insecure and less than in some way. Sometimes it’s easy to shake off, but other times, it’s tougher to get rid of that feeling. That’s when you may want to try these ideas therapists swear by to boost confidence.
- Limit your time on social media - Scrolling through your Insta feed may not be helping your mental health. Therapist Meg Mattingly says it’s important to pay attention to how social media apps make you feel, whether it’s distracted, inspired, agitated or judgmental. If it’s making you feel bad about yourself, focus your energy on something else instead.
- Embrace the use of positive affirmations - They may seem trivial, but finding affirmations that resonate with you can help reinforce positive self-perceptions.
- Practice gratitude more often - When you’re down on yourself about your appearance, abilities or anything else, it can be hard to feel like there’s anything to be grateful for in your life. But starting small, appreciating the little things you’re thankful for, can help shift your way of thinking to a more positive one.
- Start challenging your negative thoughts - When you feel insecure, your brain is trying to convince you that you’re not good enough in some way, but you don’t have to accept that. Instead, you can fight back. Psychotherapist Mollie Spiesman recommends identifying and questioning negative or unrealistic thoughts about yourself. She advises, “Ask yourself if there’s real evidence behind these thoughts or if they’re unhelpful assumptions.”
- Consider working with a professional - If your feelings of self-doubt and insecurity are so big that you need help tackling them, therapy can help you work through these issues.
- Celebrate all the things your body is capable of - If you feel insecure about your physical appearance, try turning your focus from the way you look to how you feel and how capable you are. Appreciating what your body can do can help you develop a sense of pride and gratitude for it.
- Set boundaries and hold tight to them - Knowing your limits and “assertively communicating” them can help boost your sense of security. You can have boundaries like this in your dating life, your professional life and with friends and family, too.